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Almost certainly a problem with the host's port forwarding.

There is a thread about port forwarding for various routers here somewhere.

Alternately, you could DL the application called Himachi, and play on the Himachi network, which usually gets around most of these problems. With only 2 players this might be the easiest solution.

Look for Hamachi online and google it. Its safe and well tested.