Try this. Once everyone is connected hit the start game button and allow the host to run the game for one game turn hour. Then let the HOST pause it. All players now for the first time can issue orders. When everyone is ready the host can unpause and start the game. Non-hosting players upon their initial connection should NOT hit the pause button (hit the start game instead) and should NOT issue any orders until the game host has paused the game after allowing one game turn hour to elapse. There is no need to run the game for days before placing your orders. During the game anyone can pause it without complications.
Have fun
Admiral K
Have fun
Admiral K