In general combining mods is not possible without modifiying the files.
Total Conquest Lite is designed to slot into other mods but in some cases it to requires modifying the files.
Any mods adjusting the map cannot been combined without modding work. Of the main mods that have been updated to the current patch this would include Lofmans, Magna Terra, Reign of the Ancients and Epigoni.
Cursus Honorum will require work where the the other mod has modified titles and objectives files.
The new Blood, Steel, Fur and Attitude will probably combine with some others mods but may ovewrite some of their content.