Yeah, well, as I said, having dreams and being a warg are two different things. Dany has a lot of revealing dreams herself and she is no warg as far as we know. Of course if Martin says they are, they are, but the books only show 1 skinchanging Stark. As for it being like a genetic passed-down power, a lot of families have Stark blood, even outside the North, so why just those 5 kids? Why not the Karstarks? They are pure male line Starks. Would seem it has more to do with how you are raised.