May I start by saying that I despise the very fashionable term "toxic" as it's used in the vernacular today? Perhaps it's because I have a real degree (not liberal arts) and therefore words have very specific meanings for me. To this date, I have yet to see a single study showing that offensive, rude and ill-mannered comments, no matter how much I personally may find them overwrought and hyperbolic, have caused a rash, death or serious illness in the recipient.
Sorry. Words mean things, or they don't mean anything at all.
That aside, I have no problem with harsh criticism, sarcasm, venting etc., as long as it doesn't get personal (unless there is very good reason backed up with evidence why it might be personal).
Saying "accountants and suits are a blight upon society" is not personal, unless the individual chooses to take it personally. I have worked Bob knows how many professions in my life, some of them popular, some of them not, but I have never, ever taken a derogatory remark about my profession at the time personally unless said remark hit upon something that I might feel hit too close to the mark. For me, personally, that is. And then it was on me. "If the shoe fits", as they say. If it DOESN'T fit, then be an adult and realize that the generalization refers to somebody else.
Or, in some cases, if I believed that the generalization was unfair, I might step in and offer a counter-argument but, again, I didn't take it PERSONALLY.
Saying "developer X is a useless sack of meat who ought to kill himself" IS personal, and it's totally unacceptable as far as I'm concerned.
Sorry. Words mean things, or they don't mean anything at all.
That aside, I have no problem with harsh criticism, sarcasm, venting etc., as long as it doesn't get personal (unless there is very good reason backed up with evidence why it might be personal).
Saying "accountants and suits are a blight upon society" is not personal, unless the individual chooses to take it personally. I have worked Bob knows how many professions in my life, some of them popular, some of them not, but I have never, ever taken a derogatory remark about my profession at the time personally unless said remark hit upon something that I might feel hit too close to the mark. For me, personally, that is. And then it was on me. "If the shoe fits", as they say. If it DOESN'T fit, then be an adult and realize that the generalization refers to somebody else.
Or, in some cases, if I believed that the generalization was unfair, I might step in and offer a counter-argument but, again, I didn't take it PERSONALLY.
Saying "developer X is a useless sack of meat who ought to kill himself" IS personal, and it's totally unacceptable as far as I'm concerned.
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