Now, now. I own up to feasting on your corpse, but I'm certainly not smiling as I do so. Smirking, perhaps. But really, I'm not after any territory except for those counties that used to belong to the Duchy of Coimbra; and I do feel Poland has a more legitimate grievance there than Spain does. I'm prepared to make peace any time.
For the rest, well, it's all a question of priorities. If other things are more important to you than CK, then the AI is going to be running your country occasionally, and that has bad effects. That's life. I've been lucky with my AI sessions; Dom, you, and now Ear have been unlucky.
As for being away : If you had shown up in 1400, you could certainly have had your country back together again by 1419; it doesn't take that long. Deliberately staying out to let the AI keep things together is really quite gamey, especially when other players have plans for your country. Honestly, I feel you are not being punished for bad AI - what happened to Dom was punishment for bad AI, and he took it like a man. No, you are being punished for not showing. And I think that's entirely reasonable.
Now, there may be an argument that we are not being quite consistent in our treatment of you and Ear. You'll note, though, that Trav actually did the same to Hungary as to you; he was then voted down. Personally, I was in favour of just going on, and letting Sterk's Poland collapse from badboy; Ear could easily have recovered his territories then. Since that was never going to happen, I voted for the next best option. I also think that Trav is kind of jumping the gun here. I think he should not release your kingdoms by editing; instead he should go the ingame route of claiming those titles, getting them from you in peace, and then releasing. Now, it's true that he probably couldn't get all three kingdoms released that way; tough for him, he should have started this war in 1350. On the other hand, this way you lose your badboy. It's a compromise.
If we are taking a vote on this, mine is to not edit anything, force an ingame peace on Lurken, and then extend the CK period to 1430 to give him time to recover. (He'll lose some badboy anyway with the loss of his kingdoms.) Optionally we could remove some, but not all, of his badboy, since the situation is a little special with the conversion nearing.